Melissa Lane

It is our privilege to present author Melissa Lane:

1) Tell us a bit about the pieces you have in Motherly Musings.  What was the inspiration for your work, and do you have any comments or thoughts about your featured work that you would like to share with readers?

  My two poems are grief related. I lost my youngest daughter at one month old in 2007. My life's work is trying to remember her and help her live through me. There are a lot of misconceptions about grief out there. People think that because you lost your child as an infant that it's easier than losing them later and you get over it. But there is no way to get over the grief of losing a child. No matter how old they were. It always hurts and it always will hurt. Losing a child is the single most agonizing thing a parent will ever go through;  it's like being told you aren't deserving of having that child.

2)  How long have you been writing and how did you get started?

I've been writing since I was about 10, I write all sorts of things and have a lot of poems out in interspace on the web. I've never had anything published though so this is definitely a first for that.  I don't really remember how I started writing. I've always done it, on paper on pen, during school and lunch. When we got a computer I started putting things out there.

3)  In general, the pieces that appear in Motherly Musings are about parenting, mothers, or children.  Does this theme permeate your other writing? What other themes and ideas influence your work?

I write about family a lot, grief, loss, and nature especially more often then other things. In most of my writing there is a happy ending and we all know that real life doesn't quite work out that way. I like to write about struggles and pain and yet the person is always able to come out on top and still enjoy life and be happy. I think in a way it's kind of how I've been living my life since my loss.

4)  Are you working on any other writing projects at the moment?

  I'm working on my first book, which I hope at some point will get published. It's fantasy with just a very little hint of sci-fi thrown in. It's going to be one of those that grips you tight and won't let you go.

5) What is your greatest challenge as writer?

Spelling definitely.  :-) Thank God for auto-correct; without it I would be doomed. I don't worry about rejection too much. Sometimes I get a little worried but then it dawns on me that I know my writing is not for everyone. That's why I don't write for other people; I write for myself.

6)  What are you reading right now?

  Currently I'm reading Life's That Way by Jim Beaver. He's an amazing author and a wonderful person. I hope I get the honor of meeting him in person someday.

7) Any final thoughts, advice, or comments you'd like to leave our readers with?

  Don't ever give up. No matter how dark life seems to be at an exact moment, remember to just keep breathing because there's light at the end of the tunnel. 

I'm Melissa, I have two living children and one child who passed away. My husband and I live in Central Indiana. I run a charity in memory of my daughter called Calypso's Ocean.  

My other big hobby besides reading is spinning.  I recently learned to spin yarn on a drop spindle and on a spinning wheel. It's very involved and I enjoy making things with my hands.

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